The reason why this issue is mainly discussed with women (but not limited to women) is that I personally think that women's emotional dependence is still more important than men's in terms of upbringing and values based on cultural and marriage backgrounds. Although men also need the other half, they still have career support, and they are more encouraged to achieve personal achievements and take the lead in any relationship, so they are more able to imagine themselves in terms of interests; while women are more emotional labor, The neural pathways of natural emotions are more developed/rich, and they are
Accustomed to relying on emotional telemarketing list objects, including film and television novels, which widely create beautiful emotional hallucinations, and lack independent spirit in this regard. I will write another discussion about the spirit of independence. This time, I suggest you build some lines of defense on the details and standards that you can pay attention to in getting along with each other. Readers can choose and use the appropriate point of view based on personal experience without full agreement. "Having self-confidence" may be difficult for many people, and it is normal to doubt yourself. It is precisely because of such uncertainty that people are willing to work hard to grow.
For people with a heart, being unconfident is also a good opportunity for emotional manipulation. One of the methods that horror lovers often use is to disrupt the object's self-perception by being critical, ignoring and other cold violence, so that the other party begins to suspect that he is not a good lover, but a naive ghost who is always unreasonable and has poor emotional control, and then gives up. control in relationships. During the love period when the other person is most concerned about whether the other person is happy or not, if the other person is unhappy "because of me" from time to time, girls tend to habitually review themselves.